You'll fail with all women if you act unattractive.
1. Stops initiating:
The main reason men stop initiating romantically is because they’re scared or tired of getting rejected.
Since they have a weak frame (their personal reality) they interpret the rejection as a pronouncement of the value of their identity.
But you must not initiate for her.
Do it for yourself because as a high-value man, you go after what you want.
You must have outcome independence (OI) though.
OI is confidence.
Confidence = attractive.
2. Gets butt hurt:
Be the Oak. Meaning you bend but you don’t move your roots.
If you're crumbling like a sandcastle when women test or reject your advances, you’re failing to keep your frame.
Women test men for congruence. “Is he who he says he is?”
And if you fail these tests, she shows you, and her, that you aren't who you say you are.
Failing congruence tests aren't you keeping her from getting upset and definitely not from her telling you that "you passed" (lol).
Failing is you reacting to her claim on reality.
By reacting you validate her negative feelz.
By showing amused mastery you display strong rootedness that women find attractive.
3. Seeks validation:
Don’t do anything for a pat on the back or recognition of accomplishment.
If you do, you’re not behaving attractively.
By seeking her validation you’re not drawing her into you.
You're chasing her.
Anything you chase is going away from you.
You’re being a simp.
Validate yourself to yourself and you’ll be surprised how many others follow along.
But if they don’t, it won’t matter to you anyway.
Win, win.
4. Stops caring about appearance:
Physicality is power.
Letting yourself go tells the world you don’t value yourself, so why should anyone else?
Hit the gym, and sharpen your style. Being a 24/7 t-shirt sneaker boy slob isn't a badge of honor because “I don’t care what people think.”
Slobbery signals you don’t care about yourself.
5. Weak Game:
“Game” is the art and science of female attraction.
If you don’t know it, you need to.
The overwhelming majority of men are 1,000% clueless as to what attracts and turns on women.
Game isn't just for single guys, it’s for married men too.
Your wife is a woman, after all.
Having clunky ill-informed Caveman game subconsciously tells women you’re unsuccessful with them in general, which means you’re undesirable.
Women like men other women like.
6. Argues:
Arguing is getting sucked into her frame.
Being defensive or argumentative shows her your frame is weaksauce.
If your frame were strong you’d not feel the need to defend, excuse, explain, or rationalize yourself (DEER).
Better to laugh at her than to argue with her.
But be prepared, she’ll test to see if you're congruent.
7. Boring:
Women would rather be with an exciting loser than a boring Adonis.
You can be anything, but just don’t be boring.
Women want to be along for the ride of an exciting high-value man’s life.
If you don’t value having fun in your own life, why would anyone want to join you?
What’s in it for them?
8. Weak boundaries:
Boundaries are the castle walls to your kingdom.
If you let people breach them without consequence, the inner empire falls.
Enforce your boundaries like a sovereign enforces his laws.
Not with threats or ultimatums but with where you place your attention.
Ultimatums are only issued by weak people.
Withdraw your attention to people or things that don’t value in your life.
Do not entertain foolishness unless it’s fun.
9. Pedestalizes:
Treating women like something you saw in a movie won’t end well for you.
Treat her like a celebrity and she’ll treat you like a fan.
Women want a man that is better than they are -it’s how their attraction is wired.
Putting her on a pedestal is the exact opposite of what creates attraction.
Don’t save her, she doesn’t wanna be saved.
Want a vivid example?
Watch the movie Blue Valentine (you’ll thank me later).
10. Doesn’t lead:
You’re the Captain.
If you don’t steer the ship, you’ll hit the rocks.
Take command of your life, your mission, and your relationship.
Lead with ambition and unwavering resolve and women will follow.
Any woman will confess that an unambitious man is hideous.
Remember, women are not an end to your book, they’re a chapter.
-Acta Non Verba